Durham University Boat Club comes together for Finn Abberton
This Sunday past and present members of Durham University Boat Club and countless others came together to honour the memory of recent alumnus, Finn Abberton. Finn tragically took his own life on his birthday in December 2017.
Durham University Boat Club writes: The number of people who took part was a testament to what an incredible person Finn was. The group walked for a total of around 8 hours and 24 miles, along Weardale way from Durham to Roker. It was a very special day for everyone involved. The event also aimed to raise some money for Mind the mental health charity. We smashed our original target of £750 and have raised an incredible £3500. There is still time to donate, anything would be greatly appreciated.
Finn Abberton of Durham University Boat Club
Men and mental health
- Suicide is the single biggest killer of men aged under 45 in the UK, with 76 percent of all suicides in 2014 being men (ONS, NISRA, GRO 2014).
- One in ten men currently have no one they can rely on for emotional support
- Half of men admit they feel uncomfortable talking about emotions compared with two in five women
- Men are more reliant on a partner for support, while women prefer family and friends
Research from the mental health charity, Mind has found that men are twice as likely as women to have no one they could rely on for emotional support (9% vs. 5%).
Despite the fact that talking about problems, including mental health problems, is one of the best ways of dealing with them, almost half of people (47%) also admit they feel uncomfortable opening up about emotions to people close to them. This is noticeably higher in men, over half of whom are uncomfortable opening up (52%), compared with two in five women (42%).
While men are most likely to rely on their partner when they need emotional support, women are more likely to turn to family or friends instead. This is reflected in the relative size in women’s support network, as they are also more likely than men to have five or more people they could rely on for emotional support (39% vs. 29%).
The Guardian annual Student Experience survey 2017 showed that almost nine in 10 (87%) first-year students find it difficult to cope with social or academic aspects of university life. Students are unsure of what to expect, and a large proportion say that the transition from school to university is a source of considerable stress. The stress of studying is a key area in which students struggle, with almost six in 10 reporting that this made it difficult for them to cope. Other troubles that featured significantly included isolation (44%), balancing work and study (37%), financial difficulties (36%) and living independently (22%).
The message is clear, student life brings its own set of pressures, rowing at an elite and top club level can add to this considerably and young men are the most vulnerable group. Many universities have recently been running mental health campaigns to publicise the on-campus help on offer. Organisations like Mind, The Calm Zone and GrassRoots can offer support and resources. Mental health is thankfully less of a taboo subject so it’s easier than ever to reach out for help. But ultimately we need to look out for each other and be brave enough to offer support when we see someone struggling.